RECAP: A Successful Single Black Woman Can't Find A Man Because She "Chooses Bums"

Per our previous post prior to the show airing, we said we'd be back with the recap. Ok, we admit it, we are just getting to this program...and we didn't watch all of the clips. But from what we did see, we have concluded that we all have to much fu*kin baggage to bind together in bliss. According to author Jimi Izrael, all successful Black women choose bums (clip #3).

**editor's note: we watched again with a (male) friend and he was very interested in the debate. He said he was surprised that a show about Blacks and relationships would air on ABC. This friend is known for his short attention span but he watched clip after clip with great enthusiasm. This made us look at the program in a whole new light. His feedback was that he related to much of what the men had to say and appreciated knowing he was not alone. On the flip, he was enlightened by the women and said they inspired him to fight for love, even if it meant himself.**

All aside, know this, if you find love/spark/connection that is deep and real and big enough for you to jump in with both feet then do so with conviction and purpose. 'Cause guess what: No matter how good things seem on the other side of the fence when the water gets rocky in your strong passionate relationship, know that there will always be problems, there will always be drama, even after you hop the fence to escape to "greener pastures". If you accept that NO ONE IS PERFECT, NOR WILL THEY COMPLETELY MEET YOUR IDEALS, and with that treat that person with the love and respect you feel you in turn deserve, you're good. Sidebar: Awareness and acceptance that no one is perfect doesn't mean just put up with any and everything. You should have standards, you should have boundaries, you should have self-worth. When these things are crossed/not met, it's time to reevaluate and transform. (To the beat of Jay Z & Swiss Beat's "ON TO THE NEXT ONE"! :-)-,,,,,,,

From abc.go.com:

When it comes to successful black women and marriage, it appears there's still plenty of room for debate. The latest "Nightline: Face-Off" was hosted by Vicki Mabrey and Steve Harvey, center, and featured, from left, Sherri Shepherd, Jacque Reid, Jimi Izrael and Hill Harper. The question at hand: Why can't a successful black woman find a man? Viewers can watch the whole debate on "Nightline" Wednesday, April 21 at 11:35 p.m. ET (Guy D'Alema/ABC)

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